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So my new found epiphany of being kinder, nonjudgemental is creating problems amongst some of my once radical feminists friends. They are now saying I am no longer an ally because I empathies with men. Let me say this, I know many see trans women as men, and I am guilty of that in the past, but since being married and in love with a trans woman, I must fortify her the decency of love and understanding, and can see her female energy above her biology. Maybe that is all we need to do, is show these individuals respect, and that we understand their pain and see that they care enough about us, to want to leave their male camps. Why must we find the need to tell them they are not women, I think they know that biologically they are not, and the pain they feel may not allow them to realize what many see as reality.

I don’t understand why I must choose sides, and why I can’t have compassion for both, women and trans women. I am sorry the life long battle that has been going on for centuries must continue to be placed in the forefront. I for one find that what we resist will persist, if we continue to focus on what we don’t like or want, we will only get more of the same. So, one group feels they are being wiped from the phase of the earth because another group wants recognition, can we not co exist and maybe try to help each other out?

I think that as a species we need to really look at what is going on here, we are going around in circles trying to justify our ideology and force this ideology on others, and no one is listening to another persons needs, instead creating scenarios that hurt everyone, not just women. I want to say that I love women, I am a woman and I will always hold allegiance for my sisters, but I also have allegiance for my spouse and my trans female friends, which I have alienated for a while now by  waving a hate flag. I am sorry I can no longer do that, I want to come from a place of love, compassion and forgiveness. So all I ask is to please respect my views and do not try to shame my new views or pit me against my feminists friends who understand my opinions and new beliefs. People grow, they change and they evolve. I am sorry you feel betrayed, those are not my intentions, I am just being honest and real.   We want to continue to be a beacon of love and light and there is no room for hate. I want to continue to focus on my detransition, I want to continue to spread knowledge to help people understand their struggles, not point them out and judge them for it. As women, our power may lie in our ability to have compassion and be the peace makers, if we wage battle towards others for pushing our own needs, what makes us any better than what we are fighting against.

I get it, many will read my words and see me now as the enemy and no longer an ally, well I am sorry you feel that way. I can still be an ally without having to carry around the need to want to destroy the opposition.  I am part of the trans umbrella although I am a detransitioner, I can’t throw them under the bus because I chose to no longer identify as a trans man, they have a right to live and be.




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5 thoughts on “Hurt

  1. Makes sense to me.


    Posted by charlies59 | January 11, 2016, 10:14 pm
  2. Hi radfem here. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this. You are definitely NOT an “enemy”. Radical feminism is for women. No woman is an enemy. Of course people have different opinions but it’s possible to care about women and trans women. Radical feminists are women centric though. But that doesn’t mean you have to lose your compassion for marginalized males. It’s sad how detransitioners are treated by the trans and radfem community. Stay strong.


    Posted by Lilly (@Bruce_Lilly2) | January 12, 2016, 2:21 am
  3. I don’t see you as an enemy, Ritz, not at all.
    Your new found peace is good for you, but is has nothing to do with radical feminism.
    Radical feminism is a movement with goals.
    Radfems judge men as a group, not on a individual level. Many radfems have male friends, I have male friends.
    If you can’t support radical feminism, then that’s fine. Nobody has to. It’s not about choosing sides, it’s about your beliefs and about what you want.
    You come at a point now where your views don’t match with radfem analyses and it’s up to you what you do with it.
    But don’t blame radfems for not supporting your ideas who are the opposite of radfem analyses.

    I can see why it’s hard for you and I hope you find your way. Hugs.


    Posted by Gerdien | January 12, 2016, 4:57 am

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