The most critical moments in our lives stems from childhood, a child is molded by their environment, upbringing, becoming stuck in certain critical stages in life that will forever stain the fabric of our life. The first 5 years are so critical, but from the moment you are born, the connections we make in our brains hemisphere from that precious soul that is suppose to be our rock, can lead us into a spiral of addictions, behaviors and problematic relationships including with ourselves. Now here me out, and don’t shoot the messenger, I am not trying to blame anyone, so please don’t take my words out of context or go on the defense, parents do the best they can with what they are given, the manual on how to was left out and most fend for themselves the best way they know how. So where was I, ah yes, entering this world being pulled out by a stranger, umbilical chord cut, and our world has changed as we know it. From a warm comfortable environment swimming in the love fluids our mommy and us, enjoying this blissful existence, to a cold room, slapped in the ass, and well you know the rest, life is no longer as gentle and blissful as it was. Our mothers brain waives become one with ours, those first few minutes as we fall in love with the woman that gave us life staring deep into each others eyes the magic begins, the most amazing connections in our brains our made, there are specific types of chemicals that are turned on to help us deal for the rest of our lives or not.
What is suppose to be the most natural and wonderful event in life has become the most synthetic and unpleasant scenario. Women gave birth in the wild, we were brought into this world by a loving caring individual with the most enlightening scenario coming out of the birth canal which is so significant as to how our lives will be played out, our umbilical chord untouched till much later, where the connections are being made just as a USP port makes the connection with your iPhone as you download the rhythms you wish to hear, your mommy and you are in total connect mode and life is good and as it should be. What happened? Why all of a sudden has having a child become so synthetic and painful? Why are women cut and the child pulled out, if “natural” means are used, women are given epidurals, drugged out of their minds, and being exposed to a very frightening situation, that need not be so. The child ripped away, vaccined, and exposed to a world that already had a bad start. How are we suppose to be healthy adults, when everything has been made synthetic and so unnatural? Our mothers go back to work after 3 months when we barely even memorized her face, when we have not had our needs met. Do we wonder why so many of us have emotional/mental issues in life? Why there are so many that want to dress like women being born men, or visa versa, or take it one step further, could it be we are longing for that connection we missed, or could it be that we are trying to fight the abandonment issues we face and dealing with it in an abnormal way?
There are so many things we face in our childhood years, things that make us feel less than loved and accepted for our expressions, the toys we want to play with and how we see the reflection in that mirror. So we think we must change that reflection to please the world, but in the end we end up screwing it all up. In the end we spend thousands of dollars on changing that reflection, saying we are something we are not, all due to those precious years that we were made to feel unsafe, unloved and judged.
Its Never too late to heal, to create those connections we missed in our earlier years, please, please, try other things before you think that your solution is to change yourself to fit into society, have society change to fit you.
As an Occupational Therapist I learned so many wonderful things, above is a video of an Occupational Therapist who is sharing such amazing wisdom.
Till Next Time