I often wonder if the hype we are seeing now regarding gender dysphoria could have been handle differently with a different outcome. Children are very vulnerable to their environment and reactions from those around them. In fact there are certain stages we go through in life during our exploration stages and if we are stunted or reprimanded this may be the start of our internal turmoil and vises. I remember studying abnormal and normal child development to include not only the physical but the psychological milestones that allow us to be healthy adults. Every class I took during my Occupational Therapy curriculum educated me and helped me understand many of my own behaviors, as well as the behaviors we see in our society. People who are plagued with addictions and abnormal coping skills were terribly stunted and endured horrific childhood traumas that caused them to be the maladaptive adult they are today.
If you look at people in general who struggle with addictions, you will clearly see they were abused as children in one form or another. These individuals do not have healthy coping skills so they choose formats that will allow them to escape in one form or another. Instead of helping these individuals we place them in jail, over medicate them, facilitate means of self destruction and label them with a condition or dysphoria.
So I want to specifically talk about gender dysphoria and born in the wrong body scenario. Many trans individuals claim they knew from the age of 3, some ranging till age 7. Why the magic number? Well during this stage of development the child enters meaningful play stages, they are very impressionable to their environment, friends, family cues and have a large imagination. If the child was scolded for playing with dolls (he saw his sister, or neighbor and decided that he wanted to play to0) for imitating mommy or sis while they were trying on a dress, the child will have a block that is more like a desire to fulfill the task he was not allowed to do. Hence, the beginning and awakening of the desire to feel his feminine side, which by the way all men have an inner female, some suppress it, while others won’t stop till they are able to fill it and be it.
So you may ask what about FTM transsexuals, girls are allowed to dress and be more of a tomboy yes, however, butch lesbians and excessively masculine women are ridiculed not only by women themselves but society looks down upon them if they don’t grow out of the stage. So hence, most FTMs searching for the approval of others to justify why they are attracted to women, “see I was never a lesbian”, a statement many make after transition and proudly parade their new male status, but most don’t have a clue what being a man really is, and are faced with ridicule for not being man enough or not being able to socialize around real men.
So what if the treatment for gender dysphoria was geared more towards working through the stages in life that you may have not integrated, or help you work through the pain you carry in your heart from childhood. What if instead of being told you can change your gender and given dangerous hormones and elective surgeries to cosmetically alter yourself, would you be game? Or is the escapism more appealing to you, and you really don’t want the help at all. I wonder, I believe many are enjoying the new found life, the escape from reality and hold on to their dear diagnosis that really is no diagnosis at all.
Till Next Time