Many in the trans community look at Lynna and I as the enemy, like traitors or people who are against them because we tend to ask the tough questions many fail to ask, as well as we believe that the noted protocol to treat trans is not exactly the right path for everyone. Is that so bad? No, you see there many in this community who are suffering and continue to suffer even after all is said and done. Transition got them no closer to being happy, although it bought them some time, but when time passed by, they are back where they started from, depressed, alone, anxious, angry, frustrated and over all in pain.
So if transition did not solve their problems, what else can be done? Well here are my 2 cents, accept who you are, the majority of people remain unhappy with what they see in the mirror. They have spend their life savings, first born and even prostituted themselves to get all the procedures they thought were going to magically turn them into the gender they have dreamt of being since childhood, and in the end of the run, there they were. I believe that our problems are based on childhood situations left unsolved, mile markers in our development that were not met, and matters of the spirit that were not dwelled in deep enough to grow spiritually, hence the vicious cycle many in this community are faced with.
To heal you need to know why you need healing, to stop feeling pain, you need to know the true nature of your pain. To rise above your challenges, you need to know the truth of that challenge. It’s hard I know, but there comes a time when that little boy needs to grow up and be a man, and deal with the monsters under the bed, to know that Santa is not the one bringing your toys on Christmas day, and to realize that your adoration of Marilyn Monroe does not mean you need to be her. After 15 years surrounding myself with many in this community, and seeing the struggle they face day in and day out, I ask myself, do they want to get better, or do they just like living in the perpetual mess they live in?
I am not the enemy here folks, Lynna struggles daily, just like many of you. I have come to the realization that gender is not that important, and I will be dammed if I let gender rule my life. There are so many wonderful things to be grateful for, and just because I was born with an innie and not an outie, my world should not be torn apart. Life goes on, we grow up and realize Barbie and Ken are just action figures. Do whatever it takes to make you happy, but if that still does not do it, then by all means, let it go, you are worth being happy and worthy of love.
Till Next Time