Okay, I am going to get real here, really real, as real as anyone who has been under the self impression that such a thing is possible or conceived. Yes I know people are doing it all of the time now, heck I thought I had too, till the years and life started showing me otherwise.
Well here goes, what is the meaning of gender? The outward appearance of ones masculine or feminine traits, the conception of tasks, function and roles attributed to men and women in society in private and public life. So what kind of role or function are MTFs doing that grants them the status of being a “woman”? Most just stand around in front of a mirror exchanging wigs with puckered lips waiting to hear, from the peanut gallery and tranny chasers, the words how beautiful they are. They rarely engage in any if at all womanly functions, oh, except hanging out with other trans girls drinking and sharing war stories, or talking about sports, yeah that is what I call a real woman. A large majority spend all their hard earned cash, the cash they could be giving to their wife and kids, on procedures so they can look more like a “woman”. But wait is that not something that should already be there if you claim you are a woman? Most have not an ounce of femininity, and their feeble attempts to act as such, makes them look, well I hate to say it, laughable.
So why do it then? Why put yourself through the ridicule, painful procedures and over all exhaustion all to realize a dream that is best left in the bedroom during your cross dreaming phase. I know there are individuals out there with some sort of intersex condition that feel that transitioning may bring you relief, it may and it may not. The facts are that there are more people who after all is said and done are not happy with their transition and expectations, and in the end, end up with health issues, alone and depressed even further.
So what part of gender change did you think you accomplished? Yes the system granted you with a legal name change and gender marker, but in reality you really changed nothing, because at the end of the day, if you had to force this upon society and yourself, then all you really did was create your own fantasy, one that very few are playing along with. Most women will not accept MTF’s as women, men won’t really accept FTMs as men. We always end up feeling estranged during social gathering with “cis” people, feel like cheaters and liars, because honestly, gender is a social construct, describes the characteristics that a society or culture delineates as masculine or feminine. For that matter gender queer people are the true warriors, not the cult that claims a sex that they were not born as.
What is the difference between sex and gender?
Sex = male and female
Gender = masculine and feminine
So in essence:
Sex refers to biological differences; chromosomes, hormonal profiles, internal and external sex organs.
Gender describes the characteristics that a society or culture delineates as masculine or feminine.
So while your sex as male or female is a biological fact that is the same in any culture, what that sex means in terms of your gender role as a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’ in society can be quite different cross culturally. These ‘gender roles’ have an impact on the health of the individual.
In sociological terms ‘gender role’ refers to the characteristics and behaviors that different cultures attribute to the sexes. What it means to be a ‘real man’ in any culture requires male sex plus what our various cultures define as masculine characteristics and behaviors, likewise a ‘real woman’ needs female sex and feminine characteristics. To summarize:
‘man’ = male sex+ masculine social role
(a ‘real man’, ‘masculine’ or ‘manly’)
‘woman’ = female sex + feminine social role
(a ‘real woman’, ‘feminine’ or ‘womanly’)
So I say to you those of you that are pursuing to change your gender, are you really? Save your money, find a good meditative group, get in touch with your spirituality, if you really want to be like the sex you claim you are, start volunteering your time in places that good women are needed. Instead of acting like a fetished crazed maniac, who “can’t wait to be a virgin again” (a real quote from a trans woman who is planning on getting a vaginoplasty), or making up lies about the boyfriend you don’t have, save your money and give it to organizations like breast cancer awareness or any organization that deals with women’s issues and help those you claim so badly to want to be like. Stop being self centered and selfish, that right there is a start on creating a better version of you. Instead of lying, cheating and stealing the life of others in the process of your gender change.
Till Next Time