I have been around trans women, and trans men since 2004, many live interactions, as well as online communication. I have dated, had close friends who are trans and I have even gone across the continent to meet one. As much as many in this community feel that their situation is different and that I can’t speak for us all, I say you are right your situation seems unique to you, but it’s the same script with a change of a few lines, according to the age of the person in question. What does not change is the suffering we cause in our lives and the lives of others. With each passing day and procedures, we tend to want to be the victim and blame everyone and their mother for what is wrong with us, but the bottom line is we don’t want to be responsible and need to escape from the hurt we feel for not accepting ourselves. So instead we tantrum away, forcing our beliefs on others and lose all sense of reality during the process.
I want people to understand that I don’t hate trans people, heck I have lived your life for the past 14 years, I have de-transitioned several times, transitioned back, and I am still part of this community as much as I don’t want to be, but the facts are that I have had this trans history and it will forever make me one of you. What I hated in me, I learned to look under a microscope and I tried to understand the behavior that all of us encounter. The excess looking in a mirror, hundreds of selfies, self-consumption, self-hatred, absorbed with “the transition”, that leads to the lack of rational thinking and behavior, all wrapped up in a large package of narcissism. This ladies and gents is the wonderful world of trans. Never being happy, always wanting more, long bouts of depression, seeking approval, loneliness, inability to keep a relationship (for most), lack of social skills, inability to communicate, just to name a few, all stemming from a neurological system that is malfunctioning and labeled as Asperger syndrome.
Why can’t the professionals see the real problem and instead of offering this irrational solution of changing the body that you feel is wrong, why can’t they present real solutions as in working on our neurological system, teaching us coping skills, and modification in behaviors that are less damaging than what they propose now? Self-awareness is the only way to be able to deal with our lives, I know many of you will disagree with me at all cost, it’s your self-defense mechanism to continue to pursue your “dream”, but your dream is not based on any concrete realities or even solutions, it’s madness and irresponsible. We are hurting ourselves physically and emotionally, why can’t we be truthful with ourselves and others? I want this community to rise up, to stop the lies, the impulse nature, the unreasonable cravings to pursue what many see as impossible and irrational.
I propose a self-analysis, why do you feel you are born wrong? What makes you the gender you demand you are? Where would your life be if you were not able to transition? What were you doing 10 years ago before this whole trans thing went viral? Has life really changed for the better since you transitioned? Are you still depressed, anxious, always wanting more, and never happy? Ask yourself all these questions and be real for a change. Take a look at the life of those who transitioned, are they any better of now, really? Stop promoting this as normal and healthy, and please, please, don’t encourage our youth, this life is no life for anyone. Once you enter the trans zone, like the song Hotel California, you can check in anytime you want, but you can’t ever leave.
Till Next Time