I want to point out that I know I have said some terrible things about individuals in the LGBT community in the past, especially the T. At first, my intent was never to hurt anyone, it was only after I was attacked for speaking my mind about certain things, that I was passionate about, then things turned sour. I do however still believe certain things, and should be entitled to my views and opinion. Early on in my transition after I went through the puberty stage and all the stages that most trans experience when we first transition, I realized that no matter what I did, I could never really change my biological sex. After I came to terms with this, I finally found peace. I since have made it my quest to help people let go of their predisposed ideas that they can be something other than who they are. I am not trying to be mean or argumentative here, just trying to prevent future suffering and keep things real.
Most people undergo dangerous surgeries to accomplish set perceptions of themselves and risk their health to prove to others that they are the sex they say they are. Genitals are not fabricated in a laboratory, nor are they created in an operating table. I am sorry but when I looked into SRS and saw what they considered a phallus, I quickly gave up on the idea of ever pursuing such a thing. I understand some people get it in their head that they must possess the genitals of the gender they identify as, they are entitled to do with their bodies what they wish, however, to remotely think that by adding a piece of your arm, back, leg or whatever they use these days and call it a penis, or on the other end of the spectrum, to create an opening and call it a vagina is really being disrespectful to those who are born with these set genitals. A woman is no more of a woman because she has a vagina, and a man is no more of a man because he has a penis. In fact, how trivial are we, to think that genitals make a man or a woman.
We know that each sex has a reproductive function to perform with their genitals, women carry and birth Children, while men produce the seed that creates part of the equation in life, yet there is more to a man and a woman than their reproductive organs and genitals. This is my message, this is what I have been trying to promote and educate people on, that they are more than what they have in between their legs. Their personality, hearts, minds and actions are what is important, not the gender marker they carry around on their ID. I get everyone is at a different place in their transition and emotional development, I understand all that, but I would like to see a world where people are focused on their spiritual evolution, their health and their peace of mind and not have to base it on societal norms.
We are all made to feel incomplete, insufficient and incurable. We are all made to feel less than, and there is an industry that profits from your pain. If I can give anyone advice about transition it would be this: Find your balance, do things not to please others or to fit in, but to find inner peace. Now realize that inner peace is not achieved by what you do to your body, it is your spirit and mind that needs an alignment, not the genitals or societies need to tell us what a woman or a man looks like. When you start seeing yourself in a loving light and stop comparing yourself to others, then and only then will you find happiness and peace. If transitioning is what will bring you happiness then, by all means, do it, but realize that it may not be all you think it will be. Also, understand the limits of what you are trying to accomplish, as long as you can deal with the reality of the outcome, I believe you will be happy. Let the New Year bring all of you much peace of mind, and I hope that we can all learn to coexist and to respect each other’s views and beliefs.
Till Next Time